I realized that I have yet to write a blog about gay marriage, and considering I really don't want to jinx myself by talking about my recent good luck, I think I will focus on that tonight. This is the moment when most people say, "well I am not gay, personally, but I have no problem with it" or "of course I am against it, God says that it is wrong." Well luckily for all of my readers, I hold neither viewpoint. I will not write a disclaimer before saying that I am for gay rights, nor will I fall back on religion for supporting my feeling on gay marriage (and in both cases if you know me at all you will know I am straight by all of my horrible relationship issues and my lack of religion could be startling). I support gay marriage because I couldn't imagine walking ten steps, let alone a mile, in their shoes in this bigoted world.
Recently I had a few friends come out to me, and I could not be any more happier for them. Granted the life they will live now will be so much more difficult because they are openly gay, but then again they will not have to live within their own prison - hating their life because they couldn't accept themselves. I could not imagine not being able to love freely, or being discriminated/hated because of who I held hands with or kissed or chose to lay in bed with at night. I did not choose to support gay marriage because of my friends who came out to me, nor did I choose because I am gay, I chose because it is the right thing to do. It is morally wrong to say that two people cannot marry because they are the same sex. I do not know one straight person that wants to be denied the right to marry their lover, so why do that to someone else? And the argument that I hate the most is that gay people cannot reproduce. Well damn you, a lot of people cannot reproduce. Some men shoot blanks, some women's eggs are not able to fully turn into a viable fetus, and some people just choose not to reproduce. What about those in the Church who are not reproducing - all of those able bodied, straight people who are CHOOSING not to reproduce and populate this earth. Reproduction is the worst argument to have against gay marriage, yet it is increasingly becoming a popular one to use.
I must say, living in North Carolina, where Amendment 1 was recently passed saying that the only accepted civil union in North Carolina was a marriage between a man and a woman, has been difficult for me. There have been numerous pastors who have spoken about the LGBT community as if they are some sort of second species, or inferior to straight people which could not be further from the truth. The LGBT community are people who have feelings, needs, desires, dreams, and wishes, no different from the straight community. It is time people need to stop hating a section of people because they are different and learn to accept their differences. A person has the right to not like or not associate or talk to a person of the LGBT community, but by no means do you have the right to damn them, to make laws against them, or to discriminate on the sole reason that they are different.
In short, I think gay marriage should be legalized. Honestly, could you imagine what a boost in our economy that would be, all of the jobs that would be needed to throw a proper gay wedding?! (joke, haha) In all seriousness though, think about it. What right does any person have to say that one person cannot marry the person they truly love, regardless of race, creed, or sex? I know I have no right to tell Steve he cannot marry Joe, nor do I have any right to tell Lilly she cannot marry Rita. Put yourself in someone else's shoes...feel how they feel...love how they love. Imagine what it would be like to be in love with someone and know that marriage is not even an option, adoption is becoming more and more difficult, and that, hell who knows, you may even have trouble getting an apartment together or you could not be on each other's insurance, or you could not even be in the hospital room as your lover takes their last breath. If you think you should have all those options regardless of your race or sexuality, then stand up for the LGBT community.
Okay, so that was kind of an intense blog. Hope all is well with everyone and that you are remembering not to judge. Also, just food for thought is a quote I saw this morning: "Poison from the past looks you in the face every day." Don't hold on to the past; remember to keep moving and change is never a bad thing!
Recently I had a few friends come out to me, and I could not be any more happier for them. Granted the life they will live now will be so much more difficult because they are openly gay, but then again they will not have to live within their own prison - hating their life because they couldn't accept themselves. I could not imagine not being able to love freely, or being discriminated/hated because of who I held hands with or kissed or chose to lay in bed with at night. I did not choose to support gay marriage because of my friends who came out to me, nor did I choose because I am gay, I chose because it is the right thing to do. It is morally wrong to say that two people cannot marry because they are the same sex. I do not know one straight person that wants to be denied the right to marry their lover, so why do that to someone else? And the argument that I hate the most is that gay people cannot reproduce. Well damn you, a lot of people cannot reproduce. Some men shoot blanks, some women's eggs are not able to fully turn into a viable fetus, and some people just choose not to reproduce. What about those in the Church who are not reproducing - all of those able bodied, straight people who are CHOOSING not to reproduce and populate this earth. Reproduction is the worst argument to have against gay marriage, yet it is increasingly becoming a popular one to use.
I must say, living in North Carolina, where Amendment 1 was recently passed saying that the only accepted civil union in North Carolina was a marriage between a man and a woman, has been difficult for me. There have been numerous pastors who have spoken about the LGBT community as if they are some sort of second species, or inferior to straight people which could not be further from the truth. The LGBT community are people who have feelings, needs, desires, dreams, and wishes, no different from the straight community. It is time people need to stop hating a section of people because they are different and learn to accept their differences. A person has the right to not like or not associate or talk to a person of the LGBT community, but by no means do you have the right to damn them, to make laws against them, or to discriminate on the sole reason that they are different.
In short, I think gay marriage should be legalized. Honestly, could you imagine what a boost in our economy that would be, all of the jobs that would be needed to throw a proper gay wedding?! (joke, haha) In all seriousness though, think about it. What right does any person have to say that one person cannot marry the person they truly love, regardless of race, creed, or sex? I know I have no right to tell Steve he cannot marry Joe, nor do I have any right to tell Lilly she cannot marry Rita. Put yourself in someone else's shoes...feel how they feel...love how they love. Imagine what it would be like to be in love with someone and know that marriage is not even an option, adoption is becoming more and more difficult, and that, hell who knows, you may even have trouble getting an apartment together or you could not be on each other's insurance, or you could not even be in the hospital room as your lover takes their last breath. If you think you should have all those options regardless of your race or sexuality, then stand up for the LGBT community.
Okay, so that was kind of an intense blog. Hope all is well with everyone and that you are remembering not to judge. Also, just food for thought is a quote I saw this morning: "Poison from the past looks you in the face every day." Don't hold on to the past; remember to keep moving and change is never a bad thing!
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