Is anyone other than me tired of all of this hoop-lah over
plus size models versus “skinny bitches”?
I know I sure am. It is so
irritating to hear people go on and on about how plus size women have it so
hard. What about all of the skinny women;
do you honestly think they have it easy?
How would you like to be referenced as a skinny bitch in most popular
songs, or be hated by the majority of the female population because you were
blessed with a high metabolism? Don’t
get me wrong, plus size women are not treated fairly either. Plus size is synonymous with “fat” for most
people – which is not a fair assumption.
Also, it is more difficult for bigger women to find attractive clothes
in their size. But take it from someone
who has been small her entire life; they don’t make clothes that fit women who
are stick skinny either.
I think that is where everyone gets confused. Pre-baby, I was a size 0 or 1 and shopping
was one of the hardest tasks I faced. I
am short with long legs; I have a butt and had a small waist – those combinations
are not considered when jeans are made.
Now, I am a size 4 or 5 depending (I can still fit into some of my size
1s but not many) and I am still struggling.
I still have a butt (slightly bigger), a somewhat small waist, short
with long legs and the introduction of some hips. I am not plus size, but I am no longer a 0
either and yet, I still have issues shopping and finding clothes that fit my
body.
What I am getting at here is that everyone has a hard time
shopping. Every woman has a hard time
looking in the mirror and not seeing something she would change or fix. Every
woman is in her most vulnerable state when she is in that dressing room trying
on clothes. It is the same for every
woman. Some women may have an easier
time finding clothes that fit their body style and look good – at a decent
price, but that doesn’t mean we should shame them because their experience is
different from ours. That’s what this
all boils down to. We, as women, have to
stop this bickering amongst ourselves.
Quit calling someone a skinny bitch because she is smaller than you; and
quit calling someone plus size (with a negative connotation) because she is
bigger than you. We have to realize that
we all are different with a ton of different experiences and life
situations. That woman you are calling a
skinny bitch may be struggling from a lifelong eating disorder; and that woman
you are calling fat may be struggling with losing weight after having a
baby. All you are doing by judging is
creating more hate and more judgmental attitudes to be created. You have to be able to look at people without
only seeing their size. Someone’s weight
is one attribute about that person – but it is not everything. Judging and stereotyping someone because of
their weight, however, can negatively affect someone and can cause lasting
issues. Whether someone is big or small,
realize shaming a person because of their size (or grouping people together
because of their sizes) only creates more issues.
When in doubt think of the golden rule: treat people the way
you would want to be treated. If you
would not want someone commenting about your size, don’t comment about
theirs. If a person talking about your
weight/size does not bother you, congratulations – you’re one in a million –
but still keep your mouth shut! J
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